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February 19, 2008

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Steve Errey

Insightful article Jason.

Refreshing to read something about confidence that isn't the normal 'positive affirmation' stuff!

What people don't recognise about confidence (among other things) is that it works just like a muscle - the more you use it the bigger it gets, the less you use it the smaller it gets. Muscles develop in line with the level of performance required of them, and the same is true of your confidence.

I always say that you're already as confident as you need to be to live the life you're living. If you want to be more self-confident in specific areas you've got to look at working your confidence muscle in those new directions.

Jason Jacobsohn

Thanks Steve. I like your insight as well. Thanks for sharing.

Evan

Well sorta.

The other path is self-forgetfulness and confidence in your cause/product.

Some people can be confident of what they are selling but not about personal attributes.

Confidence in self can easily become arrogance which is an automatic turn off for me (I know this isn't what you mean - but can be a problem with self confidence).

If someone lacks self-confidence they can talk about something other than themselves (or even get interested in listening to others - which shouldn't hurt sales either).

This isn't meant to contradict the point you made but to add to it.

JoLynn Braley

Hi Jason,

I like the fact that your suggestions are all about taking action, although I also believe in the power of affirmations. The thing is that affirmations are meant to lead to action - if you don't take action then you not only won't "get anywhere", but you also won't be building your confidence!

Very good points you've made, thanks!

Cindy

This comes at a perfect time for me. I'm starting to head back into the work force and I keep avoiding the resume and interview process because I feel inexperienced. Even though I'm confident that I can do the job, I have been nervous to reach out and face the new field of expertise. Writing the blog and interacting with people in forums has been a huge confidence booster!

Jason Jacobsohn

Thanks Evan for the additional perspective. You are absolutely right about too much self-confidence can lead to arrogance. I am glad that you raised this point.

Jason Jacobsohn

JoLynn, great point about affirmation. Yes, action is what needs to take place. With the right amount of motivation, self-confidence can definitely be improved.

Jason Jacobsohn

Good luck Cindy. I am glad my post was relevant to you.

LaRene

Most of us are not confident, at least, we aren't in the beginning. I've always found it helpful to act like you are confident until the new growth catches up with you.

The action is an extension of faith that it will come.

Jason Jacobsohn

Thanks LaRene for sharing your perspective. If you act like you are confident and you really are not, just make sure that you don't come across as arrogant. In almost all situations, you want to act like yourself because at some point it will catch up to you and you may not be able to sustain the act.

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