July 05, 2009

Five Ways to Engage Someone in a Conversation

Conversation3 Having a good initial conversation is the key to building a relationship with people that you meet at an event. If you have a good dialogue, then people will want to follow-up and talk again. Without this happening, you will be wasting a lot of your valuable time.

Below are five ways to engage someone in a conversation:

  1. Ask good questions – Show that you care by asking insightful questions
  2. Demonstrate good listener skills – Have good eye contact, smile, and don’t interrupt people when they are talking
  3. Ask how you can help – Great way to show that you care about building a relationship and gives you a reason to follow-up
  4. Find similarities – As you are getting to know someone, look for similar interests so you instantly bond over certain topics
  5. Offer to make introductions – During a conversation, offer to connect people to others at the same function or in your network

What others ways can you think of?

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July 02, 2009

Book Review: Start With the Answers by Bob Seelert

Start with the answers book Start with the Answer: And Other Wisdom for Aspiring Leaders was written by Bob Seelert who is the Chairman of Saatchi & Saatchi, which is a leading global ideas and advertising firm.  Bob is a graduate of Harvard Business School and has been the CEO of five companies. During his exceptional business career, he has built brands and businesses, been involved in two mega-mergers, and performed several turnarounds.

As a serial business man, the author shares a collection of ninety-four real life stories from his successful forty-year career.  Seelert does an excellent job providing practical insight and guidance for anyone who wants to succeed in business. Regardless of whether you are an executive or not, you will come away with some great business advice.

The book is broken up into the following sections:

Section One: Preparing for a Career in Business
Section Two: Managing Your Career
Section Three: Planning and Other Essentials of Business Strategy
Section Four: Business Operations: Looking Beyond the Obvious
Section Five: Finance and Economics, or Dollars and Sense
Section Six: Lessons in Leadership
Section Seven: Building Culture Through Communications
Section Eight:  Personal Style and Spirit

Within each section, the author dives into real world examples and shares what he has learned along his journey. Seelert believes that every leader must master these eight dimensions to succeed.  In his storied career, Seelert has been exposed to a very diverse set of people, events, and institutions.  He draws upon all of these experiences to share strategies, practices, and decision-making and problem-solving approaches.

Start with the Answer: And Other Wisdom for Aspiring Leaders is a very easy read because each story is only 1-3 pages. You can start and stop at any time and won’t feel like you are behind in the book. While each story is independent of one another, they also do build upon each other.

If you want to learn how to enhance your career and become a more successful leader, then this book is worth a read. 

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June 30, 2009

New Networking Sites Targeting Kids and Dads

Mydadnme Dad it up
Chicago entrepreneur, Keith Kriegler ofInspiring U, just launched some new sites, MyDadNMe and DaditUp, focused on kids (ages 5-12) and dads. What is interesting is that these sites target an under served market, dads, as well as kids before they can use sites such as Facebook (have to be 13 to use site).

Below is a more detailed description of each site:

MyDadNMe fills an unmet need to enable dads, kids and families to stay connected in a safe, interactive environment. Through messaging, photo galleries, e-cards, games, activities, the site is a place where families can stay connected whether they’re together or apart. Additionally, you’re able to invite mom, grandparents, relatives, dads buddies and kids friends to join so you’re able to create a community all your own.

Dad It Up focuses on providing fathers with a place to exchange ideas and share information about everything from being a better parent, to work-life balance, child issues, visitation, step-parenting and more.

Check out the sites and let me know what you think.

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June 28, 2009

Kiss Vs. Handshake - Funny Video

The below video is a funny way to demonstrate why a kiss may be better than a handshake when meeting people for the first time.  What do you think?

June 27, 2009

Interview of Lillian Bjorseth, Author, Breakthrough Networking

Lillian Bjorseth It is my please to share with you my second interview of Lillian Bjorseth, Founder of Duoforce Enterprises, Inc. and author of Breakthrough Networking. Lillian is also my partner in the Greater Chicago Networking Extravagana. You can read my prior interview here.

1. How do you define "business networking?"

I define business networking as an active, dynamic process that links people into mutually beneficial relationships to build a new kind of wealth: social capital.

2. How did you brand yourself as a "networking authority?"

I began branding myself as a networking authority when I started Better Business Contacts, a business leads organization in the Chicago area in 1991. I owned it for 10 years before I sold it to BNI.  Simultaneously, I also started speaking and training on relationship building and communication skills nationwide. Then I wrote Breakthrough Networking: Building Relationships That Last, which I just revised and printed the third edition.  Further, I’ve had a website on the above topics since 1995.  Interestingly, only 3 percent of businesses had websites back then.  Lastly, the event we co-host, the Greater Chicago Networking Extravaganza, continues to brand us as networking aficionados.

3. What elements of networking have you mastered?

My belief in starting relationships is face to face and my belief is to network strategically. You have to do all three parts at an event: before, during, and after.

4. What are some of the strategies that you have used to build up your own network?

Number one, I believe to build your network you have to build integrity. By integrity, I mean that you have to do what you say you will do. Another one is giving before you get. I don’t keep track to whom I helped but it always comes back. A third strategy, which is more practical, I have joined committees and chaired committees. This is a way to get known through exposure. Also, I have used talks as marketing tools. I always make sure that the audience is people who could be potential clients.

5. How can someone leverage networking to stay relevant during challenging economic times?

The key is network consistency. Don’t quit networking when you find a job. The reason that you have to network consistency is what I call “a pocketful of good relationships”. Relationships are built on trust, which take time to develop.  If you just start networking after you lose a job, then you will have to play catch up. However, you can’t speed up trust. Building relationships is hard work. It takes time, care, and commitment.

6. What networking strategies do you recommend to find a job?

Join job clubs for people who are out of work. You need to build a relationship with people who are out of work as your support group. You need to look at AIRS (advice, information, recommendation or referrals, and support). Your family can’t be your support network. You need people to interact with other than your family to commensurate.

7. How have you benefited professionally from networking?

It has helped me grow two businesses. It remains my number one source for business.

8. How have you benefited personally from networking?

Networking helped me find jobs in my corporate career and has been the vehicle for me to make a good living since I struck out on my own. Plus, the idea of helping others build a new kind of wealth - social capital – is what makes me want to rise early and work late.  I’m passionate about it.

9. How have others benefited from your network and/or expertise?

As a nationwide speaker and trainer, I have helped tens of thousands of people build relationships from one on one to hundreds at a time.

10. What is one of the lesser-known secrets to effective networking?

You have to build integrity and do what you say you will do. Don’t keep track of who you help. Give before you get. Most people do not know that to be effective you have to network strategically, i.e. they don’t take time to create a relationship-building plan. They often attend events that don’t focus on their target markets, hence, my program “To Catch Trout, Don’t Fish in a Catfish Pond.” Secondly, I know that large companies have not yet to embrace the relationship-building concepts that small businesses have long used successfully. Colleges and universities need to teach these skills so that people are prepared and have the knowledge to build relationships after they graduate.  I feel so strongly about it that I have written a five-part online series of courses on relationship building that will be marketed to community colleges, among others, by the company with which I am working.  I also plan to target chambers and corporations.  My goal is to help more and more people build a network of “knob turners”!

11. Please share a successful networking story.

I got my jobs in public relations at Nicor Gas, Illinois’ largest gas utility, through one phone call and at AT&T through a few phone calls. It was that easy because I had met my “new bosses” through my involvement in a local, well-respected public relations organization. We had built relationships without having previously discussed employment. My initial call to both of them was to ask if they would share my resume with their colleagues. Ironically, each of them had just gotten an opening in his department when I called.

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June 25, 2009

Always Offer A Helping Hand

Soho Biztube The following article, which I wrote, appeared in the June addition of Soho Magazine. It is also featured at Sohobiztube.com, which is a social networking for businesses, not individuals.

Always Offer A Helping Hand

One of the most important aspects of networking is helping others. Without helping other people, it will be difficult to build sustaining and long-term relationships.

Make it a point to continuously offer to help others when you meet them for the first time. You should also reach out to existing people within your own network and offer your assistance.

Help Others Connect

Over time, your network will continue to grow. This will provide you with a variety of people you can call upon. As you get to know people within your network, you will develop a clear understanding of their background and the types of people who would be beneficial for them to meet.

When you meet people for the first time, pay attention to their backgrounds and needs. If you offer to make a connection, then you are showing good will and are on your way to building your relationships. Another great aspect about connecting people is that you are continuously putting yourself in front of your network.

People will also appreciate the time and care that went into making the connection for them. When it’s time for you to ask for a connection, others will then be glad to help you out. Once your network grows, people should even start to make connections without asking for an introduction from you.

Help - When You Can - With Job Searches

Past-built relationships can become an important asset when you are looking for a new job. The time you put into networking will ensure that you will have a good network of people to call upon. Likewise, you might be called upon when other people do job searches.

When people contact you during their job search, find out who they want to meet and then offer to connect them to various people within your network. Don’t spend too much time trying to help people find a new job until you get to know them.

The last thing you want to do is make a bad connection within your network. It will help protect your reputation and trustworthiness within the network if you make sure you feel comfortable with a person before making a referral.  By letting others know about job opportunities, this demonstrates your thoughtfulness.

Help By Being A Teammate

Another great technique for building relationships is to help others with their projects.

As you get to know people, you will learn about their professional and personal lives. During your discussions, you should get a good sense of how you can help people with their projects. Don’t offer to help until you feel that your expertise and resources can truly be helpful.

Effective ways to help others may include performing market research, analyzing competitors, researching Web sites and providing event information.  You need to take each project very seriously because your perceived character and continued relationship are riding on your good will. Helping people will take your relationships to another level.

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June 23, 2009

7 Thoughts on Networking for Challenging Times

Thought pose Networking is an activity that should be done all of the time. You should be building relationships so you can reach out to people when you need help. Below are 7 thoughts on networking during these challenging times.

  1. Networking should not be used to only find a job. Build relationships for the long term so when you need help in the future, you have an established network to call upon.
  2. Attend a variety of events to meet diverse individuals. You never know who you are going to meet so attend new events from time to time.
  3. Get involved with a networking group or non-profit. By volunteering, you will meet people who are connected and will be able to build good relationships with them because you will be working together.
  4. Reach out to your old contacts to update each other on your lives. It is better late than never to reestablish prior relationships. LinkedIn and Facebook are great tools to find these people if you don’t have their contact information.
  5. Leverage networking tools such as LinkedIn to get connected to people or firms that interest you. LinkedIn is a great tool to help you find a job or prospective clients.
  6. Always act and dress very professional. With a lot of people out of work and budgets tight, make sure that you keep your demeanor at a high standard. You have a lot of competition out there.
  7. Follow through and follow up with people. When you say you will do something, make sure that you fulfill your promise. When you meet someone for the first time who you connect with, make the first effort and follow up within two days.

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June 21, 2009

Book Review: Me 2.0 by Dan Schawbel

Me 2.0 book Me 2.0: Build a Powerful Brand to Achieve Career Success was written by Dan Schawbel who is an award-winning authority on personal branding. He is a leading voice on the subject for Gen Y and writes the popular Personal Branding Blog, publishes Personal Branding Magazine, judges Personal Brand Awards, and directs Personal Branding TV.

As a past contributor to his magazine, I have been fortunate to be a part of Dan’s personal branding journey. I am very impressed with how Dan has excelled in personal branding at such a young age.  I can relate to Dan’s story because I understood the value of building relationships while a freshman in college.  For the past 15 years or so, I have been branding myself within the business community as a business networking authority. In fact, I bought my personal domain, Jacobsohn.com, in 1998 when most people were not thinking about this yet. I have been using this in my email address ever since. Shortly after setting up my email, I created a personal site that was part branding and part resource at www.jacobsohn.com.

So, what Dan writes is accurate and works. It takes many years to build a brand, however, with today’s technology, you can accelerate it much quicker. While I didn’t have the luxury of this technology when I started my journey in college, I have leveraged several new tools to enhance my brand.

The book is broken up into the following sections:

Part I:  The Rise of Personal Branding
Part II: Command Your Career in Four Steps
Part III: Now You Have Command

Within each section, the author provides a lot of detail with real world examples of how to build and sustain your brand. Dan starts out with a history of personal branding and social media, which is an important foundation. As the author mentions, the personal branding phenomenon really came into the mainstream with Tom Peter’s article The Brand Called You, which appeared in the August 1997 edition of Fast Company.

Dan shares with us his own journey into personal branding. In fact, he has built a four step process that has contributed to his success. The four steps are: Discover Your Brand, Create Your Brand, Communicate Your Brand, and Maintain Your Brand.  If you are able to learn these four steps, then you will be able to jump start your career.

Much of what Dan writes is geared towards the Millennials who are largely just entering the workforce. Don’t let this stop you from reading this book because there are many good tips for any generation.

Personal branding is one of the main reasons that I have been able to build a trusted and diverse network of people who I can all upon anytime. Take yourself serious and find ways to become memorable through personal branding.

Pick up your copy of Me 2.0: Build a Powerful Brand to Achieve Career Success to learn how you can enhance your image and become more successful.

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June 20, 2009

How Do You Stay in Touch with Your Network?

Keep in touch One of the most challenging aspects of building and maintaining relationships is staying relevant by keeping in touch. How do you keep in touch with your network? How often do you stay in front of them? Below are some techniques to consider:

Email List – Create an ongoing and expanding email list. Send out relevant information every couple of weeks or once a month such as event information.

Email Newsletter – Similar to the email list but should provide even more value and information. This could be sent out monthly.

Invite to Meals – Every week you should be inviting 2-3 people in your network out to breakfast, lunch, or coffee. Don’t miss meal time opportunities to see people.

Host Events – Organize several events throughout the year. Perfect opportunity to invite people from your network.

Use the Phone – In a very email dependent world, it doesn’t hurt to pick up the phone every once in awhile. Call a couple of people per week to catch up and see how you can help.

Create a Blog – Blogs are a great way to share information to people. Once you let your network know about your blog, they should keep coming back to read more. Make sure that you post several times per week.

What other ways to you keep in touch with people?

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June 18, 2009

MySpace is Now #2 and Making Changes

Myspace MySpace is now the number 2 social networking site behind Facebook. In an effort to regain its title again and cut costs during these difficult times, MySpace will be cutting its staff by 30% to become more efficient and sustain a healthy culture.

According to to the article, MySpace Cuts 30 Percent of Staff, "Facebook had 70,278,000 unique visitors compared to MySpace's 70,237,000 users, which is one of the first times Facebook overtook MySpace in U.S. visitors.  However, Facebook had more than 307 million unique visitors across the world in April, with MySpace trailing far behind with just 123 million total."

What do you use more, MySpace, Facebook, or LinkedIn?

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